Finally...Zander's story

Well, it only took me a year or more to get back to this story. Again and apology to those who had been following, and probably have lost interest due to my neglect...so I am sure that the last part of this story is just for my benefit of journaling. But better late than never, right?

So after we got the call that a birthmother had chosen us...it was difficult to believe it since we hadn't been contacted personally by anyone. This was on a thursday. We left town the next day to spend the weekend with Carl's parents and while gone we recieved an email from Zander's birthparents. It was a fabulous email, they told us all about themselves, sent pictures and even told a little about how they came about to choose us.

A few months prior after we had moved and somewhat settled down (at least in my parents house while we remodeled our home) I was sleeping one night until around 2 am our daughter woke me up to potty. When I went back to bed, I lay there awake thinking about the blog that I had been neglecting (sounds like a horrible pattern) and I wasn't able to go back to sleep, it was weighing on me. So, at 3:00 am I got up, went to my computer and posted an update, clearly stating that we were busy, but I felt it was important to post something. This was on a Wednesday evening, the very Wednesday evening before we got the call from Zander's birthparents on Thursday.

In the email we received Zander's birthmother stated that she was having a difficult time choosing and had a few couples in mind. She had been following our blog and was disappointed that I hadn't been keeping up on it. She wanted to learn more about us and get to know us more, but we hadn't updated in a few months. She finally prayed and asked for some answer as to who should be Zander's parents, she asked that we post on our blog...her prayer was on Wednesday.

She said her prayers were answered when she got onto the blog and we had posted...she knew we were Zander's parents.

She was only about 14 weeks pregnant and wanted to get to know his parents and develop a relationship with us well before the birth. We met them in person two months later when they came to Idaho and stayed with us for a weekend. After we continued to email and call as much as possible. In December of 2008 I flew to Denver to spend a weekend with Zander's birthparents one last time before he was born. She wanted a little more one on one time with me.

It was a difficult road during her pregnancy; emotions ran high, things were said that I am sure we all wish we could take back, but in the process, we also developed a relationship of honesty, trust and respect. I value our open communication, it has served us all well these past almost two years.

Her due date was nearing and I told her that when she got to 4 centimeters, to call me and I would pack up and head to Denver. She had a doctor's appointment a week before she was due and called me, reporting that she was not in labor, but at 4 centimeters. This was Monday the 26th of January. I packed up, called my husband and said, "I am leaving for Denver tonight, are you able to come or should we fly you out later". He decided he would come too and so we packed up the family, taking Kya with us and we left. We stopped to stay with Carl's parents for the night and then drove the next day all day to Denver, arriving around 3:00 pm that afternoon.

I called Tess to let her know we had arrived, but she wasn't feeling well and told us to give her some time to feel better before seeing her. So we drove to our friends house to wait.

Two hours later, she called and said she was heading to the hospital. We met her there and she was admitted and we were all ready for baby #2 to arrive....the rest of the story is for another blog and another day.

An Apology

For those who have followed this blog in the past and then sat waiting for me to finish our little Zander's story...I apologize for what I can only explain as some laziness and a lot of busy-ness. I have been really busy, now with TWO little ones and Zander being "spirited", I have neglected to update on this blog.

I am headed out to do a photo session for a new adoption family and was researching to prepare...stumbled on my blog, only to be reminded that I haven't posted. I do intend on finishing Zander's story....until then, just a note for now.